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Sticks And Stones

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

Really?

Have you ever considered just how much words can and do affect a person? Have you ever noticed how something so simple as a comment from someone else can brighten our day, or it can leave us feeling down?

The words that we say are so important, and they have so much power. They can either uplift and encourage, or they can insult and disrespect others.ย  We can motivate someone to change their life for the better, or we can discourage them from ever trying to improve themselves. We can influence a person to do right or to do wrong. The words we say can affect someone for life.

Needless to say, how we communicate with others is not something that should be taken lightly. When we put little thought into what we say and how we say it, the results are often undesirable. If you have ever said something and later regretted it, you know easy it is to let things just fly out of our mouth without considering the effects it will have on others, or even ourselves.

Consider verbal and emotional abuse – which are no joke. It has been said that these types of abuse are just as damaging as physical abuse. That’s a sobering thought. Many of us would never dare strike out at someone with our fist, but we have to consider, are we doing so with our words? Do we motivate and encourage others with our words, or do we put others down?

That’s where self-control comes in. We have the ability to stop the negative words before they even come out of our mouths. It requires stopping and thinking, considering the words we would like to say, are they beneficial? Is this a wise thing to say? Will it cause others to feel disrespected? Am I bringing about a peaceful solution or am I making the problem worse? And then once you’ve thought it out, proceed with a respectful response.

This is a simple way we can implement what is known as the STOP acronym. It stands for STOP, THINK, consider your OPTIONS, then PROCEED with the right choice, which is a choice that won’t cause harm to yourself, others, anyone’s property,ย  or the environment.

If this one basic principle were applied in all interactions between people, it would essentially eliminate all conflicts.

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Sandy Hook: One Year Later

Today is the 1 year anniversary of the tragic school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Connecticut. If you remember, it was one of the deadliest school shootings in the history of America, second only to Virginia Tech. Most of the innocent people who died that day were little kids, babies whose lives had just begun. Our nation mourned and our President Barack Obama shed tears as he addressed Newtown and the nation in the wake of this tragedy.

“We can’t tolerate this anymore. These tragedies must end. And to end them, we must change. We will be told that the causes of such violence are complex, and that is true. No single law — no set of laws can eliminate evil from the world, or prevent every senseless act of violence in our society.
But that can’t be an excuse for inaction. Surely, we can do better than this. If there is even one step we can take to save another child, or another parent, or another town, from the grief that has visited Tucson, and Aurora, and Oak Creek, and Newtown, and communities from Columbine to Blacksburg before that — then surely we have an obligation to try.”
โ€”President Barack Obama

Fast forward to a year later. Are our schools any safer now than they were a year ago? Just yesterday, I heard of yet another school shooting, this time in Centennial, Colorado. What is wrong with these kids that they would commit such a crime? Why are school shootings becoming commonplace nowadays? Why are our efforts as a nation not working?

Many times when there is a mass shooting, people tend to think that the answer lies in passing more laws concerning guns. That if ‘bad’ people didn’t have access to guns, there wouldn’t be these mass killings. But I have to ask, is it the gun that chose to go and kill innocent people on it’s own? Or is the it the person who chose to use that gun to bring harm to another human being?

The truth is, gun control is not the answer. Self-control is the answer. Self-control enables us to actually pause and consider before we make that wrong choice. To think, “Will this choice I am about to make bring harm to myself, others, anyone’s possessions, or the environment? What will be the end result of me making this choice? Is there a better choice I could make instead?” And then to proceed with the right choice – one that won’t cause harm.

These concepts are only found in the Peaceful Solution Character Education Program. It actually changes the heart and mind of a person, by teaching them how to accentuate their positive character traits and eliminate the negative ones. This is how to stop school shootings before they start – to educate our kids in the right way to solve problems and even how to prevent these problems from coming about in the first place. This is the answer our nation is groping for.
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