The important things in life

Beauteous Beginnings

For so long it seems people have lost the meaning of values. Now the important things to many people, are just the opposite of what they should be. Why do people take joy in watching violence and suffering on television in the name of ‘entertainment’? Why do people camp in front of Apple for a week to get the latest iPhone, and trample any one or any thing in their path to get to that iPhone that they need! They been waiting for a whole week for this thing!!

There are things in life more important. Things that society has seemed to lose. Self-respect, peace, listening to people, patience, kindness, self-control. Morality. Teaching our kids ourselves, instead of letting the TV dump garbage into their innocent minds. Finding joy in life. (even when away from the iPhone) The definition of a true lady. Healthy living. These are the things that move me to break silence. Bringing back the basics and finding…

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Senseless violence

It seems as if I am always hearing of atrocious crimes being committed by young people these days. Just recently I read an article where a young man had two of his friends go murder his mother so he could take the $90,000 in her bank account, as well as take advantage of her life insurance policy, of which he is the beneficiary. To me, this is astounding. To take a LIFE for filthy money? Or ANY reason for that matter. I cannot even imagine.

Born and raised in a time when there’s very little morals left in our society, many people haven’t been taught basic respect for their fellow man or themselves, or even how to be responsible and work for a living; thus, many of them think the world and their parents owe them. But they haven’t been educated properly in the first place, or they would never see violence as a way to solve their problems. This is people’s lives we’re talking about. To want something so bad to where you see it as okay to take out whoever is in your way – this is clearly a lack of respect for life. You cannot get a life back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Murder cannot be undone.

All people have great value, and, given the opportunity, we are all capable of helping and serving others in one way or another. This woman owned a successful hair salon. She was said to be the type of mother who would do anything for her son. But now she’s gone. Her life has been stolen from her, and her son and his two accomplices lives are ruined because of their choices. It’s a no-win situation. All because of a lack of respect; because of greed; because of allowing money to become more important in one’s mind than a fellow human’s life. And it’s all because of a lack of education, not being taught how to successfully co-exist with one another in peace, and obtain what we desire lawfully.

Sometimes I think we hear of crimes being committed, lives being taken, people suffering and dying, and we just let it go in one ear and out the other. But we cannot afford to ignore these things any longer. Violent crimes are at an all-time high. In the 21st century. In our “civilized” world. Locking the perpetrators up in prison is not the answer. While in prison, they learn how to become better criminals. Recividism (getting out of prison only to commit more crimes and go right back) is sadly quite common in this day and age. We have to put an end to this vicious cycle. Incarceration is not the answer. What they need is to be taught, to be rehabilitated so they will become a benefit to society. With the Peaceful Solution character Education Program, this can become a reality, and has already for many people. It’s never too late to make positive changes in our lives for the better, no matter what we have done in the past. It’s time to start educating  ourselves and our children in the ways of peace.  For more information visit http://www.peacefulsolution.org and become a part of positive change today.

Sticks And Stones

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

Really?

Have you ever considered just how much words can and do affect a person? Have you ever noticed how something so simple as a comment from someone else can brighten our day, or it can leave us feeling down?

The words that we say are so important, and they have so much power. They can either uplift and encourage, or they can insult and disrespect others.  We can motivate someone to change their life for the better, or we can discourage them from ever trying to improve themselves. We can influence a person to do right or to do wrong. The words we say can affect someone for life.

Needless to say, how we communicate with others is not something that should be taken lightly. When we put little thought into what we say and how we say it, the results are often undesirable. If you have ever said something and later regretted it, you know easy it is to let things just fly out of our mouth without considering the effects it will have on others, or even ourselves.

Consider verbal and emotional abuse – which are no joke. It has been said that these types of abuse are just as damaging as physical abuse. That’s a sobering thought. Many of us would never dare strike out at someone with our fist, but we have to consider, are we doing so with our words? Do we motivate and encourage others with our words, or do we put others down?

That’s where self-control comes in. We have the ability to stop the negative words before they even come out of our mouths. It requires stopping and thinking, considering the words we would like to say, are they beneficial? Is this a wise thing to say? Will it cause others to feel disrespected? Am I bringing about a peaceful solution or am I making the problem worse? And then once you’ve thought it out, proceed with a respectful response.

This is a simple way we can implement what is known as the STOP acronym. It stands for STOP, THINK, consider your OPTIONS, then PROCEED with the right choice, which is a choice that won’t cause harm to yourself, others, anyone’s property,  or the environment.

If this one basic principle were applied in all interactions between people, it would essentially eliminate all conflicts.

Sandy Hook: One Year Later

Today is the 1 year anniversary of the tragic school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Connecticut. If you remember, it was one of the deadliest school shootings in the history of America, second only to Virginia Tech. Most of the innocent people who died that day were little kids, babies whose lives had just begun. Our nation mourned and our President Barack Obama shed tears as he addressed Newtown and the nation in the wake of this tragedy.

“We can’t tolerate this anymore. These tragedies must end. And to end them, we must change. We will be told that the causes of such violence are complex, and that is true. No single law — no set of laws can eliminate evil from the world, or prevent every senseless act of violence in our society.
But that can’t be an excuse for inaction. Surely, we can do better than this. If there is even one step we can take to save another child, or another parent, or another town, from the grief that has visited Tucson, and Aurora, and Oak Creek, and Newtown, and communities from Columbine to Blacksburg before that — then surely we have an obligation to try.”
—President Barack Obama

Fast forward to a year later. Are our schools any safer now than they were a year ago? Just yesterday, I heard of yet another school shooting, this time in Centennial, Colorado. What is wrong with these kids that they would commit such a crime? Why are school shootings becoming commonplace nowadays? Why are our efforts as a nation not working?

Many times when there is a mass shooting, people tend to think that the answer lies in passing more laws concerning guns. That if ‘bad’ people didn’t have access to guns, there wouldn’t be these mass killings. But I have to ask, is it the gun that chose to go and kill innocent people on it’s own? Or is the it the person who chose to use that gun to bring harm to another human being?

The truth is, gun control is not the answer. Self-control is the answer. Self-control enables us to actually pause and consider before we make that wrong choice. To think, “Will this choice I am about to make bring harm to myself, others, anyone’s possessions, or the environment? What will be the end result of me making this choice? Is there a better choice I could make instead?” And then to proceed with the right choice – one that won’t cause harm.

These concepts are only found in the Peaceful Solution Character Education Program. It actually changes the heart and mind of a person, by teaching them how to accentuate their positive character traits and eliminate the negative ones. This is how to stop school shootings before they start – to educate our kids in the right way to solve problems and even how to prevent these problems from coming about in the first place. This is the answer our nation is groping for.
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